The Church’s Response to Abuse

This entry is part 1 of 10 in the series Marital Abuse/Help For the Abused

“Silence in the face of evil is itself evil. God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act.”       – Deitrich Bonhoeffer   She comes to her pastor trembling, testing his reaction to her tip-of-the-iceberg disclosure of the cruelty that persists behind the closed […]

Reconciliation After Separation

This entry is part 2 of 10 in the series Marital Abuse/Help For the Abused

After an abuse victim has separated from her husband due to repetitive and serious sin, she will be faced with deciding what her response will be when he approaches her about getting back together. Whether he comes with charm, tears or threats, it is crucial for her to first have full assurance that his heart […]

Books about Marital Abuse

This entry is part 3 of 10 in the series Marital Abuse/Help For the Abused

These are some of the books by Christian authors that are available for use in self-education about marital abuse – both domestic violence and emotional/mental/verbal abuse. I have read only a small percentage of this list, therefore I naturally do not endorse every word, but I do believe the authors to be experienced in helping […]

Why Marital Counseling is Not An Option

This entry is part 4 of 10 in the series Marital Abuse/Help For the Abused

It is natural for pastors and counsellors unfamiliar with the true nature of spouse abuse to assume that because a couple is married, meeting with them together makes sense. But the National Domestic Violence Hotline states that … in order for couples counselling to be successful, both partners must be willing to take responsibility for their […]

God’s Opinion of Abuse

This entry is part 5 of 10 in the series Marital Abuse/Help For the Abused

And so begins Series 4 of our Marital Abuse posts – Helping the Abused. Up until now, my goal has been to define abuse.  Below is a convenient list of topics we’ve covered with each link: Introduction – Marital Abuse – No One Knew Series 1: How to Spot an Abuser Post 1: Domestic Violence […]