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Jason Harris

Jason loves to communicate God's word both in the local church and at conferences and retreats. Jason has been involved with Worship Music since 1996 and InFocus since 2005. Jason has degrees in theology, music, accounting, and research and is currently a PhD candidate and lecturer in the College of Business, Law, and Governance at James Cook University, Cairns. Jason is also a pastor at CrossPoint Church. You can contact Jason at


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    Michael D

    Don’t know if we should be “dating”. I think we should be “courting”. The Bible does not show any instances for dating, but in the book of Ruth, there she was told to seek her kinsman-redeemer as husband. There was only a basic need, not all these steps. She did as her ex-mother-in-law told her, without seeing if they had the same interests, etc.

    Example point 2 mentions the man should have a good relationship towards her mother. What if the mother has unrepentant sin, so you separate yourself from her. These sound like they were taken out of some secular magazine, dashed with some scripture verses.

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    Jason Harris


    Just because something happened in the OT doesn’t mean we are supposed to do it that way. You need to take a very close look at those verses to see what God is intending to communicate.

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    So Jason,
    You believe in dating over courting? =)

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    Jason Harris

    I believe we should follow biblical principles in these relationships. I do not believe that Scripture teaches a particular method.

    I think the two things to keep in balance are:

    1) We need to obey the principles of Scripture (honour your parents, be honest, demonstrate self-sacrificing love, etc.)

    2) We need to function within the context of the culture in which God has placed us.


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    I think we can easily use your second point to excuse a lot in life. God provided principles for any culture. How much of Scripture do we excuse ourselves from under the guise of “it’s not our culture…”?

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    Jason Harris

    We don’t ever excuse ourselves from any Scripture. Ever.

    Functioning within the context of the culture God has placed us in is part of our obedience to Scripture (1 Corinthians 9).

    Our obedience of this passage in no way contradicts our obedience in other areas.

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    I wasn’t saying that we should excuse ourselves from Scripture. I was just saying we ‘could’ use such an excuse, but I see where you’re coming from.
    I think a lot of the debate between courting and dating has to do with individual ideas of what the terms mean. The above post is very similar to what I would call courting, but it’s referred to as dating. Interesting…


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