For the whole month of November, missionaries Jeremy and Liz Pinero and I took my 4 little “grand-angels” and lived up in the mountains of Big Bay in Vanuatu doing all the . . . well . . . jungle-stuff – like washing our clothes in the river, crouching over a fire to cook, doing without power or running water or (gasp!) internet, riding in the moonlight frantically hanging on in the back of a truck fish-tailing through deep muddy ruts, taking cold bucket-showers on days we couldn’t go down to the river, swatting mosquitos, and hiking 2-3 hours up and down serious slippery mountain trails to hold meetings and baptise in different villages where graduates of Big Bay Bible School are starting new churches. I loved it!
Day after day, I watched a teeny ant repeatedly poke his head out of a hole in a bamboo pole to dump a tiny mouthful of sawdust on the ground. He had quite an impressive pile down there and I imagine that he’ll soon have done enough internal damage that the entire pole will collapse, bringing the thatched wall with it. In Uganda, small termites were also secretly doing their internal damage to a telephone pole by my other missionary daughter’s house. No one had a clue until the pole collapsed, putting the whole town in darkness for a couple weeks.
In both cases, no one could predict – from the outside – the relentless destruction in progress on the inside.
No one knew.
With that little termite in mind, let’s begin a series on the destructive – often hidden – abuse within (even Christian) marriages.
“But this doesn’t apply to me … I’m single!”
Singles should be more interested than most because being willing to educate yourself can spare you a lifetime of daily pain. “But . . .”
It’ll never happen to me.
He/she is a Christian from a good family.
If I don’t find a way out of this house, I’ll go insane! Life with him couldn’t be any worse.
My parents have this marriage all planned out.
If I break up with him, I may never get married.
It’s not that bad. I just know he’ll change after we’re married.
mmmm . . .
Why This Topic?
As much as we’d like to close our eyes, the abuse-awareness organization White Ribbon states that, in Australia, one woman every week dies at the hand of her violent husband/partner! If you haven’t been touched by abuse, someone you know has.
The purpose of this series
– to equip (especially IB) young people to identify abuse BEFORE they marry – to throw out ideas for those striving to help a friend involved in a destructive marriage – to propose Biblical options and give hope to the abused