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Joy studied elementary education before going on to teach at the primary school level as well as homeschooling for twenty-six years. Joy has touched the lives of thousands through her ministry in state Religious Education, Sunday Schools, and Holiday Bible Clubs as well as through her speaking at various seminars and retreats. Joy is also a gifted musician and has collaborated on multiple recording projects as well as maintaining a private teaching studio for over thirty years. Joy currently does missions support spreading her time between Uganda, Vanuatu, and her home in Australia. Joy has seven children and twenty grandchildren. You can contact Joy at email@example.com.
What should a wife do when her husband has a pattern of abusing her emotionally and verbally (but not physically)? Definition Abuse is not the occasional burst of anger, selfishness or criticism. Genuine abuse equals the Biblical term “oppression”. Abuse is a pattern of toxic behaviour (see chart) intended to maintain control over the woman whom he vowed before God and witnesses to love, cherish and protect. Our post defining emotional abuse further clarifies. A husband-wife relationship is “a covenant of mutual commitment that is designed to survive normal and even serious marital conflicts. . . however, verbal and physical abuse do to a marriage what murder and rape do to a life.”1 Leslie Vernick has an eye-opening article listing 5 indicators to determine from the Bible if a husband h... Read more
Q: Wouldn't a godly wife meekly submit “in everything, as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:24) - including domestic violence - “til death us do part”? (statistically, death at his hand is a real possibility) Q: Isn't it “acceptable with God” to “endure grief, suffering wrongfully”? (I Peter 2 & 3) In a previous post, we saw that God hates abuse, labeling it evil and wicked. Will she “win” her husband by bowing to and enabling his sinful, wicked pattern of cruelty, lies and violence? Submission is to God, not to her husband's pattern of evil. Removing the object of his sin (her!) may open his eyes to the consequences of his evil and soften his heart to seek help. She is “doing him good”. Excellent answers to these and more questions are available by Christian abuse counsellor Leslie Vernick at... Read more
or How Does a Young Mother Survive Losing Two Babies? Press Interview with Nancy Guthrie At KCC's #OneLove14 women's event and #Oxygen2014 week-long conference last month in Sydney, the speaker that touched my heart the most was Nancy Guthrie. Here are questions the press asked Nancy and her candid answers. Q: Was there a time in your life where the rubber hit the road with your faith in Jesus? A: Two days after our baby daughter Hope was born, the geneticist came in to my hospital room and told us that she had a rare metabolic disorder and would only live 6 months. I knew that this was going to be where my faith was tested. I grew up in church, went to Bible college and now was in Christian ministry. It's easy to trust God when things are easy and another thing when your baby is dying. I... Read more
A lady tells her pastor's wife Lauren, “I wish I could talk to you about problems that I'm having in my marriage but I don't think you'd understand. Your marriage is so perfect and your husband is so gentle.” Lauren says something about how the Bible has all the answers. However . . . deep in her subconscious, something made Lauren feel like screaming, but she squelched it with, “Every marriage has some problems”. Horrifyingly, the hidden facts about Lauren's “perfect marriage” is that her pastor-husband intimidates, belittles, insults and orders her around just to control her and test her submission. He uses physical restraining, pushing, following her, locking her in the same room for hours while he rants on accusing her of false motives and actions, rapes her and even threatens her with... Read more
I wanted to share one more post about my experience at KCC's One Love Women's Conference last Saturday. Though all 3 sessions were amazing, Bryan Chapell's touched me the most. His topic was "Just Mary: An Expression of Christ's Love for the Vulnerable" from Colossians 3. He started out addressing the age-old question, "If God will forgive me later, why not sin now?" So, "mathematically", this question makes sense, but he reminded us that the chemistry of the heart is stronger than the mathematics of the mind. God's love for us is so overwhelming that a true believer can not help but love Him back. Dying to self involves dying so much that someone else becomes the love of my life, my greatest desire and saying 'no' to sin is possible. He mentioned Hebrews 10:11 where it says Christ is... Read more